I need your love

10 07 2016

I need your love

from the book I need you love - Byron Katie

Byron Katie (she was born Byron Kathleen Reid; everyone calls her Katie) has one job: to teach people how to end their own suffering. When Katie appears, lives change. As she guides people through her simple yet powerful process of inquiry, called The Work, they find that their stressful beliefs—about life, other people, or themselves—radically shift. Through this process, Katie gives people the tool to set themselves free.
In 1986, at the bottom of a ten-year fall into depression, rage, and self-loathing, Byron Katie woke up one morning to a state of constant joy that has never left her. She realized that when she believed her thoughts she suffered, but when she questioned them, she didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being.
Since then, she has worked with millions of people at free public events, in prisons, hospitals, churches, V. A. treatment centers, corporations, universities, and schools. Participants at her weekend workshops, the nine-day School for The Work, and the twenty-eight-day residential Turnaround House report profound experiences and lasting transformations. “Katie’s events are riveting to watch,” the Times of London reported. Eckhart Tolle calls The Work “a great blessing for our planet.” And Time magazine named Katie a “spiritual innovator for the new millennium.”
Byron Katie has written three bestselling books: Loving What Is, I Need Your Love—Is That True?, and A Thousand Names for Joy. Her other books are Question Your Thinking, Change The World; Who Would You Be Without Your Story?; and, for children, Tiger-Tiger, Is It True? She is married to the writer, scholar, and translator Stephen Mitchell. 

Quotes from the book " I Need Your Love - Is That True?"

Your most intimate relationship is the one you have with your thoughts 

I meet my thoughts the way I would meet my husband or my children with understanding

I don't do thoughts, they do me .. until I question them


We are all children when we believe unquestioned, nursery school thoughts

     "He doesn't love me, "He is a bad person, It is not fair. "I need to be punished" I'll cry to get what I want.I'm a victim." "Your are my problem." Have you graduated yet?


"When you say or do anything to please, get, keep, influence, or control anyone or  anything, fear is the cause and pain is the result.Manipulation is separation,and separation is painful.

Another person can love you totally in that moment,and you'd have no way of realizing it.If you act from fear, there's no way you can receive love, because you're trapped in a thought about what you have to do for love. Every stressful thought separates you from people."

But Once you questio your thoughts, you discover that you dont't have to do anything for love. It was all an misunderstanding When you want to impress people and win their pproval, you're like child who says " Look at me! look at me! " It all comes down to  a needy child. When you can love that child andembraced it yourself , the seeking is over.


Hurt feelings or discomfort of any kind cannot be caused by another person. No one outside me can hurt me. That's not a possibility. It's only when I believe a stressful thought that I get hurt. And I'm the one who's hurting me by believing what I think. This is very good news, because it means that I don't have to get someone else to stop hurting me. I'm the one who can stop hurting me. It's within my power.

What we are doing with inquiry is meeting our thoughts with some simple understanding, finally. Pain, anger, and frustration will let us know when it's time to inquire. We either believe what we think or we question it: there's no other choice. Questioning our thoughts is the kinder way. Inquiry always leaves us as more loving human beings.”


 “We all do emotional gymnastics to be seen as  wonderful or funny—just to get what we ready have. And because we’re doing the gymnastics, we don’t see that  we already have it.”


“The receiving is the giving. It’s the most genuine thing you can give back. That’s what they wanted to give you in the first place.”


“Thinking that people are supposed to do or be anything other than what they are is like saying that the tree over there should be the sky. I investigated that and found freedom.”


“     Romantic love is the story of how you need another person to complete you. It’s an absolutely insane story. My experience is that I need no one to complete me. As soon as I realize that, everyone completes me.”